Everyone wants to be happy, but happiness comes with an effort. There is always something needed to be improved, something needed to be prepared. Anxiety takes over our thoughts, and the future is imminent. The process of being happy is to think about the now; how are you enjoying your time now. Savor the present.
The online Yale class, The Science of Well Being, taught me to just focus on the present. The instructor, Laurie Santos, gives an example of eating an ice cream. She tells the listener to focus on the cool deliciousness of that ice cream. Don’t think of the bad things. Don’t ponder about life. That ice cream should be the first thing on your mind. Push back those bad thoughts deep, deep within you. (1) You are here, you are in the present.
Meditation is extremely helpful to relieve stress and become in the present. (2) Being in the physical self is pretty great, and it can prevent you from thinking too much in general. Be happy and do not think too much about things in your life. Enjoy it. Be yourself and think about what actually matters in life. Grades do not make and break your life. Life will go on whether you are active in it or not. Be active and be happy, make life living count rather than let it go by. Living in the present will keep the future in mind. The past is behind us but it will remind us that the future is coming, but the present is here.
Exercise is also an important part of happiness. It gets you in the present, in the physical being. The mind is important, but your body plays a role in happiness as well. (2) People mostly think of happiness being in the state of their environment and why it could do for them, and what is happening. Their jobs, school, relationships. They tend to ignore the bodily needs, which plays an important part in regulating moods.
Look within yourself to be happy. Find what you are good at doing and do it. Be yourself at all cost, no matter what anyone says. This sounds very cheesy, I know, but absolute self is you in the present.
1. “Online Courses From Top Universities. Join for Free.” Coursera, Michigan State University, https://www.coursera.org/learn/the-science-of-well-being/resources/9xl79
2. “What Makes People Happy? Habits of Happy People – Backed By Research.” Develop Good Habits, 17 May 2018, https://www.developgoodhabits.com/make-you-happy/
3. Nickelsberg, Zohar Lazar/2014 Robert. “Here’s Your Cheat Sheet to Happiness.” The Cut, 29 May 2018, https://www.thecut.com/2018/05/how-to-be-happy.html